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Why try marriage counseling?

Why try marriage counseling?

Why try marriage counseling? I’m writing this post because it’s a commonly searched question. I suspect it may be coming from a place of desperation or confusion. Why should we try this? Will it even help us? We’re going to

Double standards and Double binds: how gender stereotypes hurt our relationships

Double standards and Double binds: how gender stereotypes hurt our relationships

In this post I’m going to ask you to question some of your assumptions about men and women. I’ll confess that my ears perk up and I become skeptical whenever I hear someone tell me something like “you know how

I love you: Say the things that go without saying

I love you: Say the things that go without saying

Expressing appreciation for your spouse In a previous post I talked about when less is more: when you’re making a request for change in your relationship keep it short and to the point. In this post, I’m talking about when

Perpetual Problems: accommodating your partner’s dreams

Perpetual Problems: accommodating your partner’s dreams

Dealing with unresolved problems in your marriage In an earlier post I talked about different types of problems relationships face and how to tell the difference. If you’ve already read that one, you can skip this first section. Solvable vs

Solving problems in your marriage: Compromise

Solving problems in your marriage: Compromise

Introduction I’ve got some news for you: Not all problems in your marriage can be solved. Some can be worked through using compromise, and some just don’t have solutions. These may come from differences in personality traits, religion, political opinions,

The Marriage Counseling Relationship Checkup

The Marriage Counseling Relationship Checkup

Problems have been building in your marriage for a while. You try talking about it and end up fighting. You try again and end up fighting. Maybe you try to change and you try to ask for change, and you’re

How to love an imperfect partner, or the romance in settling

How to love an imperfect partner, or the romance in settling

How to love an imperfect partner, or The Romance in Settling Let me set the scene for you: I’ve got a couple* sitting on my couch. I like each one of them very much. I’ve spent a few sessions getting