marriage

Double standards and Double binds: how gender stereotypes hurt our relationships

Double standards and Double binds: how gender stereotypes hurt our relationships

In this post I’m going to ask you to question some of your assumptions about men and women. I’ll confess that my ears perk up and I become skeptical whenever I hear someone tell me something like “you know how

I love you: Say the things that go without saying

I love you: Say the things that go without saying

Expressing appreciation for your spouse In a previous post I talked about when less is more: when you’re making a request for change in your relationship keep it short and to the point. In this post, I’m talking about when

Perpetual Problems: accommodating your partner’s dreams

Perpetual Problems: accommodating your partner’s dreams

Dealing with unresolved problems in your marriage In an earlier post I talked about different types of problems relationships face and how to tell the difference. If you’ve already read that one, you can skip this first section. Solvable vs

Repair attempts: How to preserve your relationship during conflict

Repair attempts: How to preserve your relationship during conflict

Conflict happens. It just does. You and your spouse are not always going to see a situation the same way, you may have different opinions, preferences, and values. And so, you will disagree. It is not realistic to expect that

How to bring up marriage problems: Changing criticism to complaint

How to bring up marriage problems: Changing criticism to complaint

You have conflict with your spouse. Okay, that happens. I’m here to help you know how to you bring up marriage problems in a way that gets you listened to and not dismissed. You may have very good points or

How to love an imperfect partner, or the romance in settling

How to love an imperfect partner, or the romance in settling

How to love an imperfect partner, or The Romance in Settling Let me set the scene for you: I’ve got a couple* sitting on my couch. I like each one of them very much. I’ve spent a few sessions getting